Forget asking your boyfriend how he feels about your future together — that conversation just freaks guys out! Instead, learn to read the signals. If you’ve noticed any of these telling behaviors, it’s official — the guy thinks you’re wifey material.
1. He wants to spend the holidays with you — wherever that takes him.
If he’s willing to forgo his childhood traditions and chill at your parents’ place — or skip family time altogether and take a trip with you — that means he’s been thinking about creating new traditions and memories with you.
2. He invites you to his best friend’s wedding — without being pushed.
Watching a close buddy walk down the aisle is a momentous occasion. And he wouldn’t want to share that with just any girl, especially since there are bound to be plenty of “So, are you two next?” comments. If your man invited you (and he seems psyched to have you there), chances are he foresees the possibility of you two walking down the aisle in the future.
3. He drops the phrase “our kids”.
Not to man-bash, but most guys have a hard time even thinking about starting a family until they meet the right girl. Saying something as seemingly minor as, “We wouldn’t let our kids be that rude” means he’s not only imagining it, he’s expecting it to happen. And the thought doesn’t send him running off to his man cave.
4. He’s cried in front of you.
Whether he’s shed tears while watching The Notebook or because his dog died, he feels like he can be vulnerable around you. Taking off his macho nothing-can-hurt-me armor shows that he’s not afraid of being himself. If he doesn’t try to hide it or act embarrassed, that could mean he’s envisioning going through a lot of ups and downs with you by his side. And he wants to be sure you’re cool with seeing his not-so-manly moments.
5. He’s suddenly very responsible about finances.
Men tend to feel like they should be in a good place, money-wise before settling down with a woman. (Sure, it sounds old school, but it’s true.) So if he seems more concerned with getting that promotion, contributing to his savings account, and opening a 401k, that’s a sign he wants to be able to support someone in the near future (ahem, you).