“The most important thing your lips speak to is [what you’re like] in relationships and how giving you are,” says Jean Haner, an expert in face reading and author of The Wisdom of Your Face. “You were born with the features you have for a reason — every feature is linked to a part of your personality and they all work together to represent who you are.” Here, Haner lays out what your lip shape says about you based on her studies in face reading derived from Chinese medicine.
“Goldilocks” Lips: Your lips aren’t thick or thin, but medium-size, and your cupid’s bow doesn’t have super-defined peaks, nor does it lack definition. If you have lips like this, it means you’re pretty even-keeled in relationships. You’ll do just fine and won’t go overboard when it comes to drama or giving too much. You’re not needy or clingy, but you do crave a sense of connection in relationships.
An Injected Fuller Upper Lip: In Chinese face reading, if you change your face, you throw off your system, thereby changing your destiny. So, if you mess with your natural features, you mess with the path you’re meant to have. And since every feature represents a part of your personality and they all work together to represent who you are, altering a physical feature is like altering your being.
According to Haner, if you mess with your lips, you can become needier, more selfish, and more out of control emotionally. And the more you plump them up, the more you welcome drama. Watch out if your upper lip is filled larger than your lower lip — that means you’re someone who loves to create drama in relationships.
However, if your upper lip is naturally fuller than your lower lip, it means you’re a giving person and you’re concerned about the other person’s needs in the relationship as well as your own.
An Injected Fuller Lower Lip: This means you’re someone who wants to be pampered. You can also be a pleasure seeker. The upside to this altered lip shape is that you’re also someone who really wants to enjoy life.
Naturally Full Top and Bottom Lips: This lip shape correlates with a strong desire to be a mother and shows how much you care about others. It represents someone who is giving, will put others first, and finds great joy in doing that. This person is also someone who wants to have a good circle of friends and a good connection with others. They really value relationships.
Thin Top and Bottom Lips: This person can be a loner and be OK with it; they don’t need to be attached at someone’s hip. They also don’t naturally speak the language of relationships as well as someone with fuller lips, but it doesn’t mean they’re not good in a relationship.
Lips With a Peaked Cupid’s Bow: This lip shape tends to mean the person is a good communicator, is quick-minded, and very creative. Because they’re so quick-minded, they can also be highly reactive and often not think before speaking, whether what they’re saying is kind or mean-spirited.
Lips With a Rounded Cupid’s Bow: This lip shape points to a person who is extra kind. They’re generally more compassionate, take more time with people, and are considerate of others.
Lips With an Undefined Cupid’s Bow: This is a sign of someone who can actually lack emotional boundaries. They can be overly giving and be too much of a nurturer and not practice self-care. They’re often responsible people, but they have to realize it’s not always their job to take care of the problem.
Lips That Are Naturally Plumper in the Center of the Upper and Lower Lip: This is a natural performer and someone who is likely to end up in the spotlight. They generally like attention, don’t like to be alone, and can be dramatic in relationships. The plumpness in the center also can be linked to someone who tends to be more self-indulgent and the thinness at the corners means they are fun-loving and excitable emotionally.
Small Mouth With Full Natural Lips: People with this lip and mouth shape tend to be more about themselves in relationships at first, but once they feel like their partner has paid attention to their needs, they’ll begin to think about their partner more. Someone with a small mouth with thin lips, on the other hand, has the hardest time in relationships because they don’t have a strong need for a connection with others. They’ll come around eventually, but it will take time.
No Upper Lip and a Normal Lower Lip: This person values work and achievement over relationships and they have a type-A personality. They may have difficulty in relationships and they don’t relax very well, because to them, life is about getting somewhere. Sixty percent of men have a mouth like this, Haner says.
Large Mouth, Normal to Full Lips: They’re generous and always thinking about what they can do to help. A person with a large mouth and thin lips, on the other hand, isn’t as giving or always thinking about others.
As a side note: In general, Haner says it’s important to think about what is happening with your mouth through your day, because if you’re holding tension, it’s a reflection of difficulties in your relationships.