Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit – Khalil Gibran
It is common in Family – mother or any relation asks a child ‘How much he/she loves him/her’ the child spread its arms out in air to show that much; not only that they take name of relations – maa; papa; baba; nana; dadi; nani; bua; chacha; maasi and so on – the child varies the size as per affection has for that relations, some time fell down in spreading arms too long; some time with fingers only. Is it proper to measure ‘Love’ in such fashion?
WE have seen in Movies or have read in Novel & Stories Lover or Beloved sitting on a stone and plucking Flower beetles one by one with ‘He / She Loves me; love me not’. Are they proper to measure ‘Love’? Could we not have Testing Meters or Gadgets like Lacto Meter; Biro Meter; Speedo Meter; Thermo Meter; Blood Pressure Meter; Pulse & Heart Reader; Scanner or a ‘black stone’ kept by Gold Smith to measure purity of ‘Gold’ and so on.
Is a type of amusement personality tester machine, which upon receiving credit tries to rate the subject’s appeal, love abilities or romantic feelings for someone? Many love testers measure the moisture on the skin surface of the subject’s hands by electrically testing the skin conductance and rates them accordingly.
Others measure the temperature of the skin. However some machines just use a random generator. Love meters could be found in and can be seen in modern video arcades, amusement parks, in bars and restaurants. Such vending machines are for amusement purposes only and do not actually give a real result. There are many different types of endoscope, and depending on the site in the body and the type of procedure, endoscopy may be performed by a doctor or a surgeon, and the patient may be fully conscious or anaesthetised. Most often the term endoscopy is used to refer to an examination of the upper part of the gastrointestinal tract, known as an esophagogastroduodenoscopy; it would be good to know about the feelings of the person through this. Could there be endoscopy to know how much a person ‘Loves’ in realty; like CTC.
People may say no need of such Genet, one can find out through ‘Lie Detector’, but my dear it would arise when some litigations come in. What about when a boy/girl proposes saying ‘they love so much’ who could know? May be due to some greed; further it’s a cumbersome – cant we have something like ‘Lacto Meter’ just in a glass of milk we know – How much pure the milk is or like black stone by just rubbing on it one can find out the purity of Gold.
I love it when I see old people together, because it makes me believe that true LOVE exists. We all know that Love cannot be measured under any instrument, though connected with human and measuring ‘Heart; Blood & temperature’ is also connected with human. In Hinduism bhakti is a Sanskrit term meaning “loving devotion to the supreme God.” Hindu writers, theologians, and philosophers have distinguished nine forms of devotion that they call bhakti. As regards human love, Hinduism distinguishes between kām, and sensual, sexual love, with prem, which refers to elevated love. It also speaks of Karun, compassion and mercy which reduces the suffering of others. ‘Prem’ has the ability to melt karm which is also known as the moving force of past actions, intentions, and reactions to experience in life. When people love all things, the force of karm that is in relation to those things, events, or circumstances slowly starts going towards peacefulness, relaxation, and freedom and people find themselves in a “state of love.” Thus, all the major religions agree that the essential characteristic by which true love can be identified is that it focuses not on the needs of the self, but is concerned with those of others. Each adds its unique perspective to this essential truth.
‘Love’ is known through the so-called Relationship of love between God & Devotee; Parent & Child; Husband & Wife; Siblings between Friends; Ruler & Subjects and Love for self. This way of thinking suggests that love is manifested differently in different social and interpersonal contexts. Furthermore, even within one of these contexts—sexual love—love can take on different qualities, such as infatuation, romantic love, and committed love.
Love is notoriously difficult to define. This is partly a difficulty of the English language, which uses the word “love” to cover such a wide variety of things. That is why English borrows heavily from Greek Language, which employed different terms to characterize different types of affectionate human relationships: Eros for passionate romantic relationships; philia for friendship; xenia for kindness to guests or stranger; and agape for unconditional, sacrificial giving, regardless of any return. In striving for an accurate definition of love, one can begin by comparing its opposites. As an expression of unique regard, commitment, and special intimacy, “love” is commonly contrasted with “like;” as a romantic relationship that is not primarily sexual but includes commitment and care, “love” is commonly contrasted with “lust;” and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, “love” is commonly contrasted with friendship.
The religious traditions advocate two basic means to mind and body unity. One is to weaken the influence of the body by denying its desires. “Offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God,” exhorts St. Paul (Romans 12:1). This is the path of asceticism, which includes such training methods as fasting, reducing the amount of sleep, taking frequent cold showers, and quitting bad habits like smoking. The obedience of military life and living a simple and non-indulgent lifestyle are also recommended. The second path to mind-body unity is to reinforce the strength of the mind through various methods, including prayer, meditation, study of Scripture, mindfulness (becoming aware of one’s states of mind and refraining from acting during unstable states like anger and complaint), setting and achieving worthy goals, respect for parents, and other lessons of family life.
If some kind of Gadget is developed to find out ‘Pure Love’; society would save lot of problems and money. Among the most important tasks in developing the ability to love others is to curb self-centeredness. Self-centeredness and the desires of the body can override the conscience, which naturally directs the mind towards the good—what is best for everyone. Concern with the self can easily override the conscience’s promptings to do altruistic deeds—sweep a neighbor’s walk, give money to a passing beggar, or stop to help a motorist stuck on the road-side. “I don’t have time,” or “I need that money for my own kids,” becomes a person’s self-talk, and the conscience is overridden. Negative peer pressure, motivated by the self’s desire to “fit in,” can lead to cruel and unloving behavior. Sexual desire can lead to deceit and exploitation, to taking advantage of a friend who deserves better with blandishments of “I love you” for the sake of nothing more than the body’s gratification. To deal with this problem, people need training in self-discipline, the fruit of continuous practice of good deeds by curbing the more body-centered desires to conform to those of the mind. Theodore Roosevelt once said, “With self-discipline most anything is possible.” Self-discipline is fundamental to character growth, which in turn is fundamental to the capacity to give genuine love. This training begins at a young age.
Friendship is a close relationship between people. This type of love provides a great support system for those involved. Friends often share interests, backgrounds, or occupations. Friends can act as sources of fun, advice, adventure, monetary support, and self-esteem. Such relationships are usually based on mutual respect and enjoyment, and do not have a sexual component.
Like sibling relationships, friendships offer opportunities to build skills in problem-solving, social communication, cooperation in groups, and conflict resolution. They are forerunners to adult relationships in the workplace and prepare young people for marriage—the “passionate friendship.”
Love is not different from truth, it is that state in which the thought process as time completely ceased; where love is there is transformation, without love Revolution has no meaning. Giving some of the sayings: “Work is your love made visible,” said the poet Kahlil Gibran. The challenges of work can be an opportunity to express love, by appreciating one’s given task from a transcendent perspective as one’s small part in creating the great Universe. Martin Luther King, Jr. once remarked:
Even if it falls to your lot to be a street sweeper, go out and sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures; sweep streets like Handel and Beethoven composed music; sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry; sweep streets so well that all the host of heaven and earth will have to pause and say, “Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.”
. “The brethren sometimes err in measuring the Divine love by the sinner’s knowledge.”
Author: George Eliot
. “Pen realized it: Sometimes there is nothing to do but surrender yourself to wonder… You must stop measuring – over and over – the line between loving and being in love. You must offer yourself, whole, to the cobalt starfish (and the orange one and the pale pink one and the biscuit-colored one with the raised, chocolate-brown art deco design) and to the clear, clear water and to the sweep of shining sky and to the silver scattershot of leaping fish (an entire school skipping across the ocean like a stone.)”
Author: Marisa De Los Santos
. “Each of us is aware he’s a material being, subject to the laws of physiology and physics, and that the strength of all our emotions combined cannot counteract those laws. It can only hate them. The eternal belief of lovers and poets in the power of love which is more enduring that death, the finis vitae sed non amoris that has pursued us through the centuries is a lie. But this lie is not ridiculous, it’s simply futile. To be a clock on the other hand, measuring the passage of time, one that is smashed and rebuilt over and again, one in whose mechanism despair and love are set in motion by the watchmaker along with the first movements of the cogs. To know one is a repeater of suffering felt ever more deeply as it becomes increasingly comical through a multiple repetitions. To replay human existence – fine. But to replay it in the way a drunk replays a corny tune pushing coins over and over into the jukebox?”
Author: Stanisław Lem
. “Hard, sharp, ticks. I hate them. Measuring thought, infinite space, by cogs and wheels. Can you understand? Someone, somewhere, can you understand me a little, love me a little? For all my despair, for all my ideals, for all that — I love life. But it is hard, and I have so much — so very much to learn.”
Author: Sylvia Plath
When Someone Says: She/he Loves you, Don’t Measure This Love by How Many Precious Things. That You Love She/he Gave You, It’s Better to Measure It by How Many Precious Things She/he Loves,
That She/he Gave Up For You. A day of hard work ends with refreshment, relaxation, and peace, all the sweeter if a person has given his or her all to the work of the day. The rewards of work include pride in a job well done, camaraderie with co-workers, respect, learning, gratitude from those for whom the work is performed, expressed in both monetary and non-monetary terms. Work performed with love thus elevates the worker in innumerable ways.